Sometimes people feel they need permission to be a certain way. It is like something big happens and the automatic response is that you must feel something; love, hate, anger, happiness, sadness, pain. However the truth is that sometimes these big things can make us feel nothing at all. And that is okay. It does not make you any less of a person. It does not make you heartless or selfish. We are all different and we all act differently to the things that happen in our lives. If you deal with grief by going for a run or a cycle then do it. If you respond to a break up by sitting with the girls eating a huge tub of ice cream watching the Friends boxset then do it. If you find that talking about the latest family argument helps you then do it. If, like me, you prefer time on your own thinking and having a good old cry then that is fine too. You are important. Your wellbeing is important. When life throws those nasty things at you, find a way to cope that works for you. You do not have to sit for weeks and cry your eyes out because that is what your neighbour does. You do not have to feel anything that you don’t want to feel just because those feelings seem like the normal things to feel. Find what works for you and do it. Just do it!